Erotic Intelligence is the ability to make sexual choices that affirm life in healthy, imaginative and exciting ways. In healthy sexual relationships, eroticism is the deliberate seeking of pleasure for the sake of connection with oneself and others without sex necessarily being the end point. One of the great challenges of living a recovered life is to experience this kind of sex with a partner with whom one feels safe, secure and connected with, while revealing the depths of our erotic, sexual selves.